So you have a child, but you want to be a Sugar Baby? Don’t think you are knocked out of the running because you have a child. However, there are a few key tips that can help you keep up with the competitiveness of the Sugar Bowl.
1. Be Upfront- It is easy to just leave out that you are a parent, but the last thing you want is to be explaining yourself six months later and ruining a good arrangement over trust issues. My best results with telling a POT I am a parent is to tell them on, or before, the first date. He may not be looking for a Sugar Baby with a child and that is his opinion. Better to open up with the “I’m a Mommy” speech than to get 3 dates in and have wasted both of your time.
2. Childcare is Priority- Especially if you have a young child, or children, make sure you have a flexible babysitter. No one enjoys having to cancel their plans last minute because they couldn’t find a sitter and your SD will not appreciate it either. Always have 1-3 sitters on call that you trust. You don’t want it to be clear that you are distracted and constantly thinking about your kids while you are out with your SD.
3. Leave the Kid Talk at Home- When you are on dates then you need to be focused on your date. Yes, your kids are always in the back of your mind and you care very deeply for them. I understand that, but these men are paying for your time so you need to be as focused on the date as much as possible. You can talk about your children of course, but don’t let every conversation be about them.
4. Introducing Children to a Sugar Daddy- This is purely up to you. How close you are with your SD and how you think your kids will handle it. Do not let anyone pressure you into introducing your children if you are not sure about it because this is completely your decision. Also PLEASE do not try to physically use your children to up your allowance or to get your SD to give you more money… Just don’t.
5. Balance- When you are playing the balancing act of being a Sugar Baby and a parent, you can easily get overwhelmed. You have to set aside time for yourself and not try to spread yourself too thin. Always remember that your children come first and not your Sugar Daddy, but that doesn’t mean you should feel guilty because you take time with your SD.
