Profile Perfection:
I get this question pretty frequently of rookies either not knowing what to write on their profile or looking to rework their profile due to lack of interest. Here I have compiled a list of hints, tips, and examples for rookies to go by. Enjoy!
So you have been on a Sugar Dating site for weeks with no hits or no replies. By this point, you have realized that you are doing something wrong. Yes. I said you. Not the Sugar Daddy. Not the Dating site. You are doing something wrong. Let’s review over your profile and see if we can’t start over…. tweak it. 🙂
Men want the best, especially rich men, they think they can buy gold with green. They cannot, their money couldn’t buy the most decadent of women on Earth and that is why we hold the power. But, first you have to catch the fish to eat it, so let’s catch that fucking fish.
Profile Pictures:
Profile pictures are a bit tricky. Many women tend to want to be discrete so they will have a censored picture (like I do), a picture hiding most of their face or body, or no picture at all. What you do with your pictures is totally up to you. Keep in mind you are putting your information and picture on the internet and prepare yourself for backlash no matter how careful you are. For optimal results on your profile, make sure to get a picture of your face (no duck faces, make sure your make up is natural, and smile!), two of your full body, and one either in a bikini or doing something active and mention it in your profile.
Use pictures that ACTUALLY look like you. Do you have an amazing picture of you? Perfect lighting, perfect angle, and the perfect amount of photo shop to make you look like a goddess? Save that picture for your Facebook sweetheart. The picture(s) you choose will be what they are expecting and if you have them prepared for the photo shopped three-year ago you, then the real version of you will always be a let down even if you have supermodel good looks.
Make sure that you do not upload a picture they already exists on any other social networking site. In fact, it is a good idea to make your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and any other social networking site to private so it cannot be linked back to you. *This is for your safety of your personal information whether you plan to be discrete or not.
As it turns out, besides a great photo to catch the eye of your future sugar daddy, the content of your profile accounts for a majority of the messages you will receive.
First, keep your profile positive and articulate when you choose your wording.
For example: If your profile reads something like- “lookin for man to spoil n support all my needs cuz im 20 n i dont wanna work but i need a ride asap!”
Do I really need to tell you what’s wrong here? First of all, use good grammar! Secondly, desperation is not your friend. Rarely does a Sugar Daddy enjoy coming to the aid of a desperate woman; it just reeks of the type of swindling that lands you driving a lemon home from the used car lot. Also, while you may think it’s helpful to just come out and say what you need- don’t. Just don’t. Sugar Daddies give because they want to, and usually because they think you work hard and are deserving of some of the wealth they have. Not because you can say please the loudest.
Don’t make your profile two sentences. You didn’t give them anything to read, they don’t feel like they “know” you. Don’t write a book describing the exact man you are looking for- you will seem picky and hard to please. Write something to set you apart from the other hundreds of profiles they are reading.
Here are great examples of profiles you can pull or build on posted by the amazing California Sugar Queen. If you have a Tumblr, go and follow her!
He Wants:
The Classy Sugar Baby: a woman with modesty and morals, a boss that hides behind smiling lips. She is smart, well-educated, cultured and calculating.
Hello, you may call me _____. I hope my looks captured your eyes but I’m certain my brains will catch your heart. I’m an educated woman looking for an equally intelligent man to take me out and show me his lifestyle. I enjoy the finer things but not alone, so maybe we can take on life together one day at a time. Please message me if you’re a man who can keep up, likes fine conversation and even finer wine.
The Slutty Sugar Baby: a woman he can take to party, strip club, gentlemen’s club, possible pay-for-play.
Hi! I’m ____. I’m like a present, with every piece of tape you peel off, your anticipation heightens. I love adventure, living life to the fullest and making the most out of each minute! Why not do it in style? Let’s go out for drinks and see if we compliment each other!
The Lolita Sugar Baby: a woman who looks like child dressed up to look like a woman. Someone he can have the constant advantage on, take care of like he would a baby, and protect. Hello, handsome, my name is _____. I am looking for a male who knows who is, what he wants and is willing to share his knowledge. I am eager to be taught and entertained and a man of wisdom is what I need. I am a young girl who is seeking an older man to help me through my life, living is nothing if you aren’t doing it with someone else, right? How about we help each other out? Talk to me if you’re interested.
The Fuck-You Sugar Baby: a woman who is so sexy she makes every man jealous. Older men like this one, it’s the simple fuck you to everyone who told these men they were too old and too gross to get someone so sexy.
Hey, honey my name is ____ and my job is making you feel young again! I will be as generous to you as you are to me, and you’ll remember what it meant to have your heart skip a beat! If you wanna make memories, message me.
The Discreet Sugar Baby: a woman who wants something short, sweet, and simple with no attachments and no drama.
Hello, I am not your average sugar baby. You can call me ____. I am very low-key and seeking a man who wants a long-term satisfying arrangement. We can be each other’s enigma’s. I’m a smart, sweet girl who is down to Earth and just asks for a man to be the same. I’ll save you the trouble of all these other girls on this sight, ‘cause I could you make you happy. Just find out for yourself and message me.
The Barbie Doll Sugar Baby: a woman who is blonde, tall, and dumb. Usually this men who have not had a sugar baby expect Paris Hilton. Perfect, perky and accommodating.
Hello, 🙂. My name is ____! I am very excited to go on this journey and would love someone to show me how its done. I’ve always loved older men, they are gentlemen and that is what a lady needs. We can go out to dinner at night and in the morning share breakfast in bed! I am just a kind girl who wants a little companionship and someone to spoil me a little.
The Boss Sugar Baby: a woman who is independent, takes what she wants and when she wants it. She’s a boss ass bitch, and yes some men like that.
How are you doing? I’m ____. I’m looking for a man who knows what he is about and doesn’t mind my independence. I’m an intelligent girl who is looking for a partner in crime to go out, forget a little and enjoy our time together. I want to benefit you as you do me, as long as you’re good at what you do, then you’ll get the best. Let’s cut to it, you’re time is valuable and I can save you the trouble. Drop me a line?
So, these are the core personalities I have seen on sugaring websites and I have issued out a paragraph for each. Obviously, you change these up, make ‘em more your own but I think these are good outlines. Keep it catchy, short, throw some keywords in there, and make sure your personality SHINES. They know what they want, they do, and will look for characteristics they want.
Make sure you are vague about the arrangement till they message you, it can come off too much like a transaction. Which they can really dislike, they wanna pretend you’re as much into this as they are. Be friendly but affirmative and professional. I know that sounds strange but this is a job, for the most part. Of course, these roles I have stated DO NOT DEFINE all sugar babies or even some that resemble them. They are simply guidelines for what some POTs look for, which is what a profile is: advertising.
Make sure your profile entices them, challenges them, manipulates them, gives them something they haven’t seen, sounds believable, and different. Think of yourself like wine, now what would the back of your label say?
Okay, so are we all set up with the perfect profile? Great. Now a quick heads up, don’t be surprised when you get messages asking you questions that were clearly written out in your profile. Many of the men stare at your picture, glance at the profile, and have their decision made of whether to message you or not decided in a matter of seconds.